How to Tell Your Partner and Family You Are Pregnant

Finding out you’re pregnant can be a life-changing moment, and sharing the news with your boyfriend and family may feel nerve-wracking. It’s natural to feel anxious about their reactions, but there are steps you can take to make the process smoother and less stressful. 

With some preparation, you can approach these conversations with confidence and clarity.

Safety First

If you are facing any concerns about your relationship or safety because of your pregnancy, it’s crucial to seek help. For support and guidance, you can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline. If you feel in immediate danger, please call 9-1-1 for emergency assistance.

Consider Having Separate Conversations

Depending on your relationship with your partner and his relationship with your parents, you may want to have two separate conversations. 

Telling your partner privately first gives him the space to process the news without feeling pressured by the presence of your parents. This allows him to express his genuine emotions and thoughts in a safe environment. Similarly, it ensures your parents aren’t caught up in a potentially overwhelming moment alongside your partner.

Prepare Yourself Emotionally

Before you begin these conversations, take some time to prepare emotionally. Think through your feelings about the pregnancy and what you want to communicate. You don’t have to make a decision now, but carefully consider abortion, adoption, and parenting. What does each look like for you? 

Being clear about your feelings and concerns can help you stay calm and focused during the conversation. Practice what you want to say ahead of time, and consider writing down your thoughts to organize them.

Choose the Right Time and Place

Timing is essential when sharing big news. Choose a quiet, private setting where you won’t be interrupted. This can help you and your partner or family feel more comfortable and open to a meaningful conversation. Avoid bringing up the news in high-stress situations or when emotions are already running high.

Be Honest and Direct

When you’re ready to share the news, be honest and direct. Use clear language, but also be gentle and compassionate, especially since this news may come as a surprise. Allow the other person to process the information and express their feelings without rushing them.

They both may be initially shocked, which is a normal reaction. Giving them the space to process can help both of you come to terms with the situation before sharing it with others.

You Are Not Alone

Remember, you don’t have to take this step alone. Our team at Alpha Women’s Resource Center will walk with you, offering no-cost pregnancy services and support so you can understand your options and the details of your pregnancy. Contact us for a confidential appointment today. We’re here for you.